I will be so happy when I'm done telling everyone that I'm pregnant. I still haven't put it on Facebook (more on that in a bit), so everyone I tell in real life I have to make sure to tell them not to put it on Facebook and I have a fear that it's going to just magically show up on there. Craziness! I even debated deleting my FB for a few weeks so I didn't have to worry about it.
I don't know why I get so worried about it. Honestly, I think I'm afraid of what people are going to say. I know that I am completely at peace with this decision and I know that this is exactly where God wants us in our lives right now, but I can't help but know that a lot of people might not agree with this decision. And I can understand why. I'm 21, Mr. Skinny and I have dated since we were 15, we never broke up or tried to date other people. We have a lot of debt. We're living with my parents and we have our whole lives ahead of us.
But, this is where I'm at, and I have no regrets. I'm not scared, I know that God wouldn't give us anything we can't handle. What holds family together is love, and we are not short on that at all.
Our immediate families all know, some of our friends know, but that's about it. Oh, and I told my boss yesterday. *Side story* I was super worried about telling him because he knows that I want to be a stay-at-home mom and that means I would be quitting come May, and he's not such a family fun guy, I thought he'd be one of the people thinking we're too young and don't have enough money, blah, blah, blah. But, he really surprised me and took it very well. I was pleasantly surprised that he was happy for us and just poked fun that our 2 year plan was a fast 2 years.
I have people that I would love to tell in person, such as my college friends. Considering they live 4 hours away from me though, I don't think that's going to happen. I think I'll just have to private message them on FB and let them know that way.
No one from my church knows yet, and although my mom says that they will be a good support to pray, I can't help but want to hide it. So I've been thinking about it and I have a plan. My church does a monthly newsletter thing that they send to the church members at the end of each month. I think I'll email the church secretary and tell her that she can put it in there for December. And since I am FB friends with people from church, I'm going to announce my pregnancy on FB on Thanksgiving Day. I thought that would be cute, and appropriate.
I think I'm also nervous because I don't want to have to go back and tell all these people that something happened. I believe I'd be less nervous if we actually got to hear the baby's heartbeat at the last appointment. We'll be able to hear it in 12 days (but who's counting?), but then I'm worried that won't be enough. I want to see his/her face on the ultrasound. Is this my first step to becoming a mom? Worried about everything? I just want to know that everything will be okay, but I guess I'll never know that, right?
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I think that when you come out on facebook you will be surprised. Sure people might think you are to young but I highly doubt any would say anything to your face or on facebook.
ReplyDeleteI am definitely a worrier and I have a feeling won't change. Now that i've felt the baby move, I worry when he/she isn't moving. hehe.. Even when the baby is born I'll worry if he/she is sleeping enough or eating enough etc etc etc.
I should add that I do not think you are to young to be a mommy and the whole debt thing.... very few people have kids debt free. Most people are never financially ready for kids... well at least that what I am told.
ReplyDeleteI'm such a worrier - I actually already worry about being a parent someday because I'm afraid I'm going to worry too much!
ReplyDeleteAlso, I think telling facebook on thanksgiving is adorable! I love when people use thanksgiving as a way to announce exciting news!
Don't worry how other people might react. What they think doesn't matter. As long as you know this is where you want to be, you've made the right decision.
ReplyDeleteI don't have kids yet, but I already know I'm a worrier. Once, I shook my husband awake at 5 am because I woke up and couldn't hear him breathing. LOL!!
I didn't come out on Facebook until like 13 weeks. I am a huge worrier though. :) You're going to be fine!
ReplyDeleteI worried and worried and worried until about week 14 or 15. It's totally normal for a million reasons. 1. It is a huge life change. 2. Your hormones are going through a huge shift. 3. You are now realizing you are responsible for someone else. Etc. Etc. Etc. Pregnancy really does get better, and you'll enjoy it soon.
ReplyDeleteAs for what everyone else thinks: You are a woman of faith, and you and I both know that you, Mr. Skinny, and God are the ONLY ones who count in this decision. God gave you this baby now, because you are supposed to have this baby now. Nobody else matters. :)
~Mama Lo~ (Sorry, my computer at work doesn't let me comment under my profile.)
I think I finally got bullied in to posting it around 12.5 weeks, but people definitely posted stuff before that and I had to do some serious damage control by calling 8 million relatives before they saw it (ugh). Anyways, I still worry every time I have an appointment, so I think it's normal. I think it's reasonable to want to wait until your hear a heartbeat considering how precipitously your miscarriage risk drops at that point.
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