Let me say that up to this point, and before we were even trying to get pregnant, Mr. Skinny and I agreed that we didn't want to find out the baby's sex. We thought it would be fun to guess and have our family members be guessing right up to the delivery. After this appointment, Mr. Skinny told me he wanted to find out. Ugh, really? With the appointment less than 2 weeks away now, I'm still not positive I want to find out, but I know I'm going to be easily swayed to find out.
One reason why I'm not totally on board with finding out is because I don't want a ton of pink or blue stuff for my shower. I want things that I could use for all my children, regardless of their sex. And the other huge reason I don't really want to find out. They could be wrong. My cousin, who was born in 2003 was supposed to be a boy. It wasn't just a mistake on one ultrasound either, it was multiple ultrasounds. She got blue stuff for her shower, they had a name picked out, and Gwennie came out Gwennie and not Dominic. Yeah. I don't want that to happen. I don't want to expect one sex and get the other, bring home a girl to blue everything, or vice versa.
So what are our options? Obviously we could not find out. But Mr. Skinny is really adamant on finding out. He's even gone so far to say that he'll tell the ultrasound tech to tell him and not me. Yeah, not a fan of that.
Another option, find out but don't tell. I'm actually okay with this. Granted I couldn't tell everyone we knew and wouldn't be telling, I'd just tell them the baby didn't cooperate, so that way when we slip and say he or she, they wouldn't catch on.
Which brings us to the third option. Pray the baby won't show us his or her goods. This is what I have my goals set on right now. Mr. Skinny doesn't think that we'd be able to keep it a secret, and honestly, I don't think I'd be able to keep it a secret either, but I don't think I'll be able to convince Mr. Skinny to find find out, so this is our option.
Predictions
As for predictions, I mentioned this before, but Mr. Skinny's grandma and father both think it's a boy for the simple reason that if it is, then it will be Pop Pop's "replacement." I can understand this, but it's still a little weird, no?
My cousin and her husband both think it's a girl. Don't know why, but they do. I think it's a girl, too. Mr. Skinny doesn't have a feeling, but he wants a boy.
Let's go through some old wives tales, shall we?
1. Chinese Gender Test. If we go by the month I believe we conceived, it's a girl, if we go by the date of my last period, which is how they do the due date, it's a boy. To be honest, I think conception is more important than LMP so I'm going with Girl for this one.
2. Carrying high or low. Well, I'm gonna go with high so far. I have no lower bump at all, it's been high the whole time, so Girl.
3. Baby's Heartbeat. It was 156/minute, so definitely points to a Girl.
4. Sweet or salty cravings. I haven't had a ton of cravings, but I've never craved anything sweet, so that means it's a Boy.
5. Mayan prediction. Mom's age at conception - 22 - even, and year of conception - 2011 - odd means it's a Boy.
6. Acne. I've talked about this before. Definitely points to a Girl.
7. Ring on a string. Put a string (I used a necklace Mr. Skinny got me) through your wedding band and drop it over your belly. Points to a Girl.
8. Morning sickness in the first trimester. Well, I was almost constantly nauseous, but only threw up a handful of times, I'm not sure if that counts as "sick as a dog" or not. Since I was constantly nauseous, I'll say sure. Means it's a Girl.
I was hoping for an even 10, but I can't find anymore! Well there was a website I found that has this crazy stuff, but I can't find it again, and sorry, I'm not peeing in a cup and putting drain-o in it, I don't have any drain-o! So we have 6 saying girl, plus my inkling, and 2 saying boy. Interesting. Guess we have a shot at seeing in less than two weeks!
What other baby sex predictions have you heard?
Baby didn't cooperate for us when it came time to look the area with the goods. Which is what we wanted. But the doctor also knows we don't want to know.... so he may have seen something but didn't tell us. I didn't post this on my blog but I think I saw something when we saw the whole body. And by something... I think i saw a boy part.
ReplyDeleteAn old wives tale I heard was if you pee in a cup, then put baking soda on it. It will either sizzle/fizz or it won't. If it fizzes then its a boy and if it doesn't its a girl. Mine didn't fizz.
Another one is if hubby is gaining weight with you its a boy and if his weight is staying the same its a girl. Hubby tells me that he hasn't gained or lost.
One of my co-workers told me it was the best experience in the world to not know and to find out in that moment when the baby is born. He said it was one of the most amazing experiences of his life.
My thoughts... I think it gives you something to push for and I think it makes it more exciting for your family if you wait. Our families don't even know names. So they have a lot to be excited about and to look forward too. There have also been some cases where I have heard of people finding out and having gender disappointment. They really wanted a boy and found out they were having a girl. This is something I don't think could happen if you find out when the bundle of joy is born.
If you do find out be prepared for a lot of pink and blue. People will get it for you regardless if you ask them not too.
I think you know what we decided. I'm not really renowned for my patience, so there was no way I was going to wait any longer than necessary. I think you'll get a lot of pink or blue clothing, but pretty much everyone I know agrees with us that it's dumb to buy other stuff in pink or blue, so I think they'll buy the neutral patterns we registered for. What's nice about knowing is that some of the houses we've looked at have a room that is already pink so I know I won't be in a rush to repaint right away. You gotta do what's right for you, though!
ReplyDeleteI did the baking soda thing too and it was right for me. I'll be honest, I assumed sick as a dog meant throwing up at least once a day (which was also right for me, bleck).
Oh, and Jana, I don't know what you saw on the full body image, but I've heard that the umbilical cord can masquerade as a shmeckel, so I guess you might still be having a girl! That's probably what happened with little Gwennie.
I liked finding out. Also, people give you a ton of clothes at showers, and there aren't many gender neutral options. Just get neutral stuff for the big things like strollers and swings (and you'll register so people will know that).
ReplyDeleteOr don't find out. Whatever floats your boat. :)