One girl I went to high school with, Dawn, messaged me saying that she had a Moby wrap and asking if I wanted it. Holy cow! Of course I did! She has a one year old son, and he's adorable. We figured out where to meet, in the parking lot of a local pizza restaurant, so I could get the wrap. We ended up talking for about 45 minutes in the freezing cold, just talking about kids, childbirth, family, everything. It was great.
Once I got home I found an old baby doll and promptly tried out all the holds. Seriously. I was that excited. I should have taken a picture, or 500. I was so, so excited and still am, I can't wait to put my baby in the Moby! Anyway, I messaged Dawn on Facebook, thanking her for the wrap and asking if she wanted to get lunch sometime since we seemed to enjoy our talking in the parking lot, and it would be a little warmer. We figured out a time and went to lunch last Wednesday.
It was really good. Like I said, her son is adorable and she was telling me all about making her own homemade baby food and everything that she does. It was really interesting and we have a lot of similar thoughts about child-rearing and childbirth. It was really great to have a conversation with someone who has such similar interests.
Dawn and I never really talked in HS, I think we had one class together and she graduated a year before I did. We stayed friends on Facebook, just not really talking. So when we got together for lunch and meshed so well together, it was great. For right now, Dawn is a stay-at-home mom, but due to some financial issues, she's looking for a full-time job again. I'm still hoping that we can get together occasionally, just because I'd love to have other moms to hang out with.
After we had lunch, Dawn paid, and so I sincerely thanked her after lunch and once I got home, I messaged her on Facebook again and thanked her. I don't know if we'll meet up again, but I'd really like to. Making friends is hard work. Mr. Skinny and I never really, truly dated. We started "going out" when we were 15 and our relationship just evolved from hanging out at each other's houses to hanging out together. Trying to make friends is like dating, I think, and I don't have any experience with trying to meet new people of any type.
So I don't really know what to do now. Do I wait for a while before I ask her if she wants to meet up for lunch? Or let the ball in her court?
Tell me:
How do you make friends? Does it come naturally to you?
I'm really good at making acquaintances. Friends are a little harder. It's also hard when my instinct is to be a hermit since I'm still finishing school. It makes me a sucky friend.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard for me to come out of my shell, especially when I have my saftey net (family, boyfriend) around. When I went abroad I was basically forced to make friends, and put myself out there, but I won't lie, it was so freaking terrifying for me. It definetly is a lot like dating! Which I think is why it feels so awkwward at first!
ReplyDeleteIt's tough to make friends - But putting yourself out there is the first step!
ReplyDeleteI have a moby on my registry. My cousin told me that they were great and made it super easy to breast feed without being noticed. She said she "could wipe it out" anywhere and no one would notice. hehe! I seriously found that to be helpful though given so many people are against breast feeding in public (not the mommies but other people). Not sure of you plan to breast feed or not (sometime tells me you are).
ReplyDeleteSo... how did using the moby with a doll work? I've been using stuffed animals to try out my different baby things. I might need to do this when I get the moby. Was it hard to put on?